Grey Book Reflection
It will not make better persons to judge the faults of another.
Gray Book, p. 51 (Step Eight, Lines 12-13)
We often hear that we need to clean our side of the street and not judge others. Our Inventory we make, is of ourselves.
We see where we have been at fault, not where others harmed us. We find that we are usually at fault, even when we were hurt by others. Our addiction had put us in situations that we were in position of getting hurt by others.
We were at fault for being there, and most likely we were there because of addiction/drugs. If we're not the problem, there's no Solution.
It starts and ends with us, this is our Recovery and our Journey. Although we're not Responsible for our disease, we are Accountable. We must be willing to make Amends where ever we fell short.
The Eighth Step relieves us of guilt, and it enables us to have Compassion and Forgiveness for others; as We and our Higher Power have for us. Our Literature tells us that, "This Step is a good test of our new found humility " We must stay Humble to continue on this Journey. The searching for people we have harmed is a difficult task, and we must ask for Help from our Sponsors and from the God of Our Understanding. Our Gray Book tells us, "We had to feel better internally before we could even bear to think about whom we had harmed and how we had harmed them, and exactly what was the way we perceived ourselves. " Our personalities Heal, because we see the actual damage we did to ourselves.
In Forgiving ourselves, we also Forgive others.
We will have the same Compassion and Patience we have with ourselves, with others.